Bullying Put Me On The Path I AM on Today

Self-esteem, confidence, trust, hope, knowing, and SELF REALIZATION, isn't something I was born with. Not a chance. I didn't just get to this point in my life, and feel the way I feel today. NO WAY! I was the pudgy tomboy that loved to play sports with the guys, I always excelled at sports, but not really well liked by the mean girls. That being the case, BULLING was a normal thing for me in school. I was always picked on in class and during recess for being liked by the teacher, {teachers pet} or because the guys chose me on their teams, or because I did my homework, and didn't get in trouble. I was shy, didn't like looking people in the eye, afraid that it would draw attention, and I would have to fight in the girls bathroom. That too became an issue, because I was so afraid to get beat up, I wouldn't go to the bathroom, causing me to have bladder infections, and issues, even in Jr. high, I hated changing out, since the girls would just barge into the showers and start to make fun of those of us who just wasn't like them. Besides those awkward moments, the list goes on. If finally got to the point that I just was so afraid and hated to go to school. The teachers really didn't do anything about the BULLING, back than and the admin, did stupid things like, if a person DEFENDED THEMSELVES, they got detention too. I grew up not believing that adults especially those who are suppose to help, really did help. I basically lost faith in my parents and those around me for not empowering me or supporting me in moments that could have been really detrimental to a young woman's life. My parents didn't go in and confront the teachers, about the issues, and I grew up feeling that if I would fight back I WOULD BE PUNISHED TOO. I'm not a fighter by nature when it comes to confrontational situations, but as I grew up, I realized that if I didn't fight for myself no one was going to do it for me. When it was time for me to attend high school, I was just paralyzed with fear, since in the 80's the school I was to attend was just overwhelmed with gang related fighting issues, and I just didn't know where to begin to explain that. BUT WHAT WAS TRULY AMAZING WAS MY BODY DECIDED TO RETALIATE FOR ME. I started to break out in hives, have anxiety and refused to go to school. My mom, had to listen at this point and petitioned to get me a district acceptation to another school, and so I moved on. That was the turning point in my life, I felt comfortable, SAFE, and most of all I found a part of me that was missing. THAT'S WHEN I MET HERB ISHIBASHI SR. THE OWNER OF PHYSIQUES GYM IN HILO HAWAII, Mr. Ishibashi, his ohana, and the guys at the gym taught me how to lift weights, the old school way. How to push past feeling scared, uncomfortable, and most of all HOW TO FACE MY INSECURITIES. Yes, I still had them, because my body was different, I looked different, I was never going to be the size 2 BARBIE, or cheerleader, not to mention I couldn't fit in the clothes for girls my age. AND MY FATHER, UNCLES & MOM, HAD AN IDEA OF WHAT A GIRL WAS SUPPOSE TO LOOK LIKE AND BE LIKE. {I was always teased about my weight, called Fat-so, my mom and aunts always talked about having a flat stomach and being a certain way. They'd say I had arms like legs and thunder thighs, by the soccer assistant coaches.} What I learned by being in the GYM everyday, was I had a place that I could call my own. I was safe. I was appreciated. I was strong, I was accepted for me, and I was empowered no matter what life threw at me, I could handle it. Life is like lifting, you INHALE, AND YOU EXHALE, YOU WAIT FOR THAT MOMENT, AND YOU PUSH THROUGH IT, WITH FOCUS, AND TRUST THAT YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT, AND IF YOU NEED HELP, YOU GOT THOSE REALLY CARING PEOPLE THAT WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR BACK. I will always be grateful for those long gym days, frenz met, lessons learned and most of all for being able to do what I love to do today. BECAUSE I TRULY BELIEVE, THAT IF THOSE THINGS DIDN'T HAPPEN TO ME, I WOULDN'T BE WHO I AM, AND HELPING PEOPLE WHO TRUST ME WITH THEIR HEALTH AND LIVES. I was able to turn a negative, into a positive, BUT IT TOOK SOME TIME TO REALIZE THAT I HAD THE POWER ALL ALONG! What I've learned about BULLING, is it's a painful thing on all levels, but just remember if you're reading this, that when a person BULLIES YOU, really inside they are so afraid themselves, so insecure themselves, so HURT themselves, for whatever reasons that you will never know, that they retaliate at life, and you're just the one in front of them pushing at their wounded buttons. This is not an excuse for them. it's a statement for you to see and know that there's more going on and that the ISSUES IS NOT YOU. IT'S IN THEM. Puakea Soul Fitness Hawaii for the Body, Mind and Spirit Resolution Gym #bullying #youhavethepower #standupandfightforyou #gotyourback

Time Management & Personal Self Invesment For Women's Health

SUNDAYS <3 at Soul Fitness Hawaii for the Body, Mind and Spirit is all about connecting our minds and our hearts, so THAT OUR SOUL'S message can be delivered. Here's the deal, everyday we put our selves through our daily paces, get up, get ready, take the kids to school, go to work, pick up the kids, go to the market, do the laundry, kids homework, make dinner, and that's just the half of it. There's only one simple difference between the person who can handle these stressors and the woman who BLOWS HER TOP! {AND THAN YOU'RE THINKING HOW DO I ADD AN EXERCISE CLASS TO THE MIX???} <3 Sisters realizes that making time for OURSELVES is the wisest most important INVESTMENT step to having A STRESS FREE, OR BETTER YET STRESS MANAGED LIFE. ~ <3 I'm not going to SUGAR COAT IT FOR YOU, there's no getting away from our RESPONSIBILITIES, but how we EDUCATE ourselves regarding how we handle different types of stressors, makes a world of difference. Women, it's time to realize we've been doing it backwards for way too long. IT'S TIME TO PUT YOURSELF IN THE FOREFRONT and start to realize and accept that you are the NUMBER ONE INVESTMENT, BECAUSE WITHOUT YOU, THERE IS NOT GETTING ANY OF THESE THINGS DONE, and your kids, won't get the message that what you do matter. By putting yourself first, you start to realize YOUR WORTH, <3 and start to manifest your SOUL'S DESIRE. So, if you think SOUL FITNESS HAWAII is only about EXERCISE & SWEAT, YOU'RE SO WRONG, I'm about the WHOLE WOMAN & YOUR WORTH. Sundays, is all about MIND, BODY & SOUL as one complete woman. When we divide it up, it don't work. We have to unify ourselves to operate in a WHOLENESS KIND OF WAY. THE MIND HAS TO CONNECT WITH THE HEART, AND THE HEART HAS TO OPEN TO THE SOUL, ONLY THAN CAN PASSION HAPPEN! So for today, make a note to self "TODAY IS THE FIRST INVESTMENT I MAKE TO LOVING MYSELF FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE." Remember you're not only doing this for you, REALLY, in hindsight you are doing it for the LOVE OF ALL. ~ Happy Sunday ~ Puakea http://www.soulfitnesshawaii.weebly.com

Think Being THIN, is Healthier than Fat, NOT SO FAST...

Women, it's time to reassess your views on being that size 6 and being HEALTHY. One thing I see everyday in my personal training clients as well as my LIFT TO THRIVE SENIORS especially the WOMEN, is this on going belief that "SKINNY IS HEALTHY, AND THICK IS FAT AND UNHEALTHY." But this is just not true. There's a huge misconception that is not limited to teens or women ages 20-45, personally I found there's NO AGE LIMITED ON THE SUBJECT. But the older you get, the more you need to realize that lifting weights, doing functional fitness training, fueling your body with healthy foods, healthy doses of water to keep your body hydrated and REST, IS THE FOUNDATION THAT WILL KEEP YOU NOT ONLY ALIVE, BUT HEALTHY TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE. Because to me, what's the sense of LIVING A LONG LIFE, if you're PLAGUED WITH CHRONIC ILLNESS AND DEPENDENT ON THOSE YOU LOVE, DUE TO THE CHOICE OF NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR HEALTH, MIND, BODY SOUL. “Strong” enhances your life and makes you more functionally fit and capable. “Skinny,” if it comes from calorie restriction, under-nutrition and too much aerobic exercise, makes you weaker and less able to do your daily activities without feeling fatigued. Of course, there are people who are naturally thin but even naturally thin people can benefit from strength training." ~ Cathie Friedrich Check out my other post regarding SKINNY vs. STRONG ~ this article is MARK ON. Soul Fitness Hawaii for the Body, Mind and Spirit #skinnyfat #thinskinnygirl #wholebodyblastfitnessclasses #resolutiongymandspa #lifttothriveseniorfitnessclass #hilohawaii #soulfitnesshawaii #functionalfitnessforlife

Our Distorted Relationship with FOOD

So very TRUE... YOUR DISTORTED RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD! No matter how many women I speak to everyday, it's the SAME BELIEF SYSTEM that continues to dominate the conversation around weight loss, emotional eating, eating disorders, daily life choices, and the list goes on. It never stops, the myths, FALSE INFORMATION TOOTED AS MEDICAL FACTS BY THE COMPANIES MAKING MILLIONS ON PEOPLE WHO CONTINUE TO BELIEVE that by not eating, or cutting down on their food consumption, will actually SOLVE THEIR PROBLEMS.... this is just not TRUE. It's the belief systems that we've been programed to buy into that has caused so many problems today, and it's not just in TEENS, OR WOMAN, MEN HAVE THE SAME ISSUES AS WELL. In many cases people can't even identify that they have an eating disorder, or lets put it another way, a very distorted relationship with FOOD. From BODYBUILDERS, ATHLETES, TEENS TO YOU AND ME.... trust me, everyone is different in it's own way, but the common denominator is that at some point the OBSESSION THAT WE HAVE WITH EATING OR NOT EATING IS NOT ABOUT THE FOOD ITS SELF, BUT RATHER OUR BELIEF SYSTEMS THAT LEADS TO OUR EMOTIONAL SELF MEDICATING WITH FOOD. {this can be either with starving one's self or over eating, both extremes have it's root in the EMOTIONAL CENTERS OF THE BODY/MIND/SOUL CONNECTION.} Like I said, you may not notice it, but it is there. With the pressures of being and looking a certain way, as the focus of our materialistic society, the quick fix of popping a PILL, to lose weight, or BURN FAT, or push it faster, harder, longer is the where the LINES BLUR, IT STARTS AS A SIMPLE I WANT TO IMPROVE MY LIFE, LOOK BETTER, BE BETTER, AND SO ON, and than it can escalate into a whole different direction, DUE TO THE UNDER LINING EMOTIONAL ISSUES. TRUST ME IT'S ALWAYS AN INNER TURMOIL THAT CAUSES THE disorder with food. IT IS NOT FOOD IT'S SELF. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH FOOD, IT'S OUR INNER EMOTIONS THAT DRIVE HOW WE RELATE TO FOOD. ~PK https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10152739826749689&set=a.322933799688.195554.108579604688&type=1&theater

Procrastination & Excuses will only lead to Preventable Medical Age Related Issues

You Really Must Not Matter.... Here's the deal, everyone can find an excuse for doing or not doing something in their lives. It's human nature to procrastinate on the things we don't want to do, or are told we should or have to do. I totally understand. BUT, the bare bones truth is, YOU CAN'T KEEP LYING TO YOURSELF. sooner or later it will catch up to you, and than you'll go into the self punishment mode which will only make things worst. STOP THE VICIOUS CYCLE AND TAKE STOCK OF YOUR LIFE NOW. You're probably wondering what the hell is she yakking about now??? I'm talking to you, YOU, the one that keeps putting off your well being for what you believe is beneficial for everyone else., your kids, your spouses, your frenz, your boss, work, the dog, cat, the charity work, whatever.... human nature is to find whatever excuse it is to not do what we know we should to make our lives better. There's many reasons for that, and I totally get it. But if you don't know where to start, what to do, or are afraid, hey, that's only natural too. Ask for help... life is about new experiences and learning. But here's the low down on that painful truth, if you keep saying you don't have time to get healthy, eat right because it's too expensive, the classes are at the wrong time, the gym is too busy, I don't like the people there, it's not my thing, a trainer is way too expensive for me to afford, or better yet my kids are more important and their games are at the same time, so I just can't do it....Well sister, think of this, DO YOU WANT TO BE AROUND TO SEE YOUR KIDS GROW UP, HAVE HAPPY LIVES, HAVE KIDS OF THEIR OWN??? DO YOU WANT TO LIVE INTO YOUR 90S, BEING INDEPENDENT AND DRIVING YOURSELF AROUND? DO YOU WANT TO STILL HAVE GOOD HEALTHY SEX YOUR LIFE? DO YOU WANT TO AGE GRACEFULLY WITH A HEALTHY GLOW???? Well than, you better get cracking.... time waits for NO ONE, keep using that excuse, and you're going to fine yourself running out of time. It's never too late, but, why start when something is broke, start now to prevent damage from even happening, and if it does, because life does what it does, you'll be better equip to handle it. ~ PK

Tip of The Day: Legs are the Pillars of your Indpendence

Tip of the Day: Leg Day Saturday ~ Exercise & Nutrition is only 2 keys to a great BOOTY.... Being comfortable in your OWN SKIN, being the authentic you, and doing it your way is the #1 step to having a very banging healthy body. When we're happy about who we are, we can do anything. Our legs are the transporters of our lives, they move us to where ever we want and need to go. They represent our foundations, our pillars of power and strength. Not to mention for us women, they are the life giving structure that helps us be mothers. Strong legs, represent strong healthy foundation and life. When we can stand on our own 2 feet, and look at the world around us and not give a dam about what people think of us, and face the world with pure inner confidence we are being the AUTHENTIC WOMAN that we are meant to be. Our legs, move us, support us, and gives life to the world. So when you're working your legs, don't just go through the motions, think about the whole purpose on why you want to get stronger, fitter, beautiful legs. Think about where you'd be with out your legs. Think about how lucky you are to be able to do the things you do, like running, lifting, walking, swimming, standing, carrying your children, grandchildren, all kinds of things depends on you having those pillars of support. Don't ever take them for granted. What you do today to strengthen your body, especially your legs and back will ensure longevity and independence in your golden years. And in order for them to be GOLDEN ACTIVE YEARS, you gotta take car of them now. You may be independent now, but as you grow older, it will make a difference if you GROW BOLDER, or need to depend on your children or others to care for you. Legs represents your INDEPENDENCE, so think about that next time you choose to not do a workout, YOU WILL PAY FOR IT LATER. http://www.soulfitnesshawaii.com ~ Dedicated to your well being.

Tip of The Day: Death Rate of a Person Who Sits All Day

Tip of the Day: The Death Rate of a person who sits all day... I know you all don't want to talk about death, but when it comes to living a long healthy life, the ONE VERY IMPORTANT THING you can do RIGHT NOW is to make sure you're not cutting your life short by sitting on your ass too long. Here's a really informative short visual, that will give you the lowdown on the goods and bads, and how to get yourself started in living a longer healthier life. GET MOVING, IN THE MORNING, AT NOON, AND LATER IN THE EVENING. I suggest taking a half an hour brisk walk, at least twice a day. I MEAN BRISK, NOT A STROLL. I see so many people walking together, talking but, what they're not realizing you have to raise your heart rate to get the body really moving and the benefits of fresh clean circulation. If not, the body stays the same, like all exercising, increase movement, momentum, rate, challenges the body, to improve it's organs, bones, blood flow, muscle growth, and don't forget the BRAIN. The BRAIN, loves the challenge, get with the PROGRAM AND START MOVING, AND YOUR BRAIN WILL START TO REMEMBER MORE efficiently, your recall will be faster. You'll have a more positive outlook of life. Less depression, anxiety, more energy, and your happy hormones will start to perk up, making you feel more ALIVE. IT'S REALLY TIME TO GET OFF OUR ASSES AND LIVE LIVE LIVE!!! http://apps.washingtonpost.com/g/page/national/the-health-hazards-of-sitting/750/

Really, I Get YOU....

I love my job, I really do. But there are those very awkward moments when I'm speaking to someone, and they're asking me for help, they're giving me their life story, and why they have to workout, and at the same time they're telling me how busy they are. How they don't have the time, how they only got x amount of time, how far it is, how they're not gym people, how this, how that and at the same time eating a bunch of crap in front of me, and saying they shouldn't be.... AND THE LIST GOES ON.

It's in these moments, my inner voice just can't shut up. I totally understand where a lot of you are coming from. Really I do, I'm busy too. Many of you think, just because I'm a trainer, I live at the gym. This is so not TRUE. I actually have another job, a family that depends on me and I am a care provider for my disabled husband. So yea, I get it. I also can attest to the motivations of having to get healthy, I, myself was very ill a few years ago, and being athletic all my life, I knew I had to get off my ASS, NO MATTER WHAT IT TOOK AND GET MYSELF MOVING, EATING ACCORDING TO MY BODIES DEMANDS, AND DETOXING FROM UNHEALTHY PEOPLE. So, when you are basically asking me for my advice, saying you want help, but at the same time shooting down every solution I'm offering you regarding your dilemma, the POINT IS, YOU CAN LIE TO YOURSELF, BUT PLEASE DON'T WASTE MY TIME.

Here's the deal, YOU'RE NOT READY to do what you're claiming you want to do. You're using every reason to not get started towards your LIFE GOALS, you're self-sabotaging yourself, and you're basically trying to tell me you know everything about what you have to do, but ain't doing it. AND AT THE SAME TIME TELLING ME HOW TO DO MY JOB. Really!!! Firstly, it's free advice, you asked, I answered. {I usually charge for that, and if you can't afford my one on one, I offer classes.} Secondly, you're not a lone, there's more going on inside of you, and I know that, YOU know that, and many of us have to accept change in order to heal, move forward and live. Thirdly, when you're really ready I'll be here, just ask. Fourthly, only you can make the choice, but the real beginning starts when you take a good honest look at yourself and realize YOU, AND ONLY YOU, CAN MAKE THE CHANGE. Fifthly, doing what I do is not as easy as you think. I don't just jump up and down, curl some dumbbells and squat my ass off all day. NOPE, I care about my clients, every single one of them. I take their concerns personally, and they trust me. It's the human element that is why I'm here. SO YES I CARE, BUT YOU NEED TO CARE ABOUT YOU FIRST BEFORE I CAN EVEN BEGIN TO HELP YOU.

Be the Team Captin of Your Life

Tip of the Day: Being your own Support Group... Yep, that's how it is sometimes, when the things you dream of doing don't resonate to the one's in your life. Sometimes frenz, business associates, loved ones, don't really get why you're doing what you do. Sometimes they feel that what you're doing is not worth the money, time or effort. Hell, sometimes they feel you just shouldn't do it because of your age, being a woman, a mother or a wife. And sometimes they are to dam jealous, intimidated and afraid of you to support what you're doing, because deep down inside, what you're doing is PUSHING THEIR DAM BUTTONS, to the point that everything you do to succeed makes them painfully aware they're not doing it for themselves. Like that's your problem. I say DO IT ANYWAY, DO IT HARDER, AND PUSH YOURSELF TO THE POINT THAT YOU REACH AND INCINERATE YOUR GOALS. It's not your concern how they feel. Sure if it's your spouse, or ohana, but really, if they love you for you, they'll support you for you, knowing it makes you happy. If not well than may be you need to reassess your relationships. As far as coworkers, business associates etc, may be it's showing you that you deserve bigger and better, and it's time to give yourself the promotion you deserve by moving on and finding better support. In life it goes both ways, when we do what we love, and surround ourselves with people who love what we do and see the vision, amazing things happen. Find people that deserve you for you, if not leave'm behind. No support means, they ain't on your team. BE THE TEAM LEADER OF YOUR LIFE, don't be the seat warmer. PKM2014 Soul Fitness Hawaii http://www.soulfitnesshawaii.com/